TGIF | Navigating the Complex Landscape of Alcohol: Unraveling the Ties That Bind
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Dear Community,
Let's dive into a topic that often stirs strong emotions and personal convictions, triggering a sense of defensiveness for many. It's a subject deeply intertwined with our social fabric, shaping the way we gather, connect, celebrate, and socialize – the complex world of alcohol.
Now, before you dismiss this as just another lecture on the perils of drinking, consider this a nuanced exploration. The idea that alcohol is akin to poison isn't breaking news. Neuroscientist Andrew Huberman, who heads the Huberman Lab, dedicated a 2.5-hour podcast back in 2022 to dissecting this issue. Recently, he shared a compelling clip that condenses the essence of the discussion. Trust me; it's worth a listen (maybe put it on 1.3x speed for a quicker digest).
The ritual of reaching for a drink in various scenarios has been deeply ingrained in our culture. It's not just about the taste or the temporary escape; it's about the association. The clinking of glasses signifies celebration, the communal act of sharing a bottle ties into our need for connection, and the quiet contemplation with a drink in hand becomes a sanctuary for our thoughts.
Yet, the paradox persists. We understand the health risks, the impact on our cognitive functions, and the toll it takes on our overall well-being. So why do we continue to participate in a practice that our logical minds tell us might not be in our best interest?
Enter the concept of sober curiosity – a mindful approach to alcohol consumption that invites us to question our habits, explore our motivations, and make intentional choices. It's not about casting judgment on those who choose to indulge; rather, it's a personal journey of self-discovery, an inquiry into our relationship with alcohol and the role it plays in our lives.
Practicing sober curiosity involves embracing a heightened awareness of the why behind our inclination to reach for that glass. Is it truly for enjoyment, or is it a reflex response to societal expectations and conditioning? Are we seeking a genuine connection with others, or has the act of clinking glasses become a default mode of socializing?
This intentional introspection doesn't necessitate a complete abandonment of alcohol; instead, it encourages a more conscious and deliberate relationship with it. It invites us to redefine our reasons for drinking and to explore alternative ways of experiencing joy, alleviating stress, and connecting with others.
Engaging in sober curiosity also involves recognizing and celebrating the benefits of sobriety – mental clarity, improved sleep, heightened energy levels, and enhanced overall well-being. It's about reclaiming control over our choices, and empowering ourselves to make decisions that align with our values and long-term health goals.
In a world where the clink of glasses is synonymous with celebration and camaraderie, embracing sober curiosity may seem like a radical departure. However, it's a departure that allows us to redefine our relationship with alcohol, challenging societal norms and choosing a path guided by conscious choices rather than automatic responses.
Embarking on my sober curious journey a year and a half ago has been a transformative experience, and there's no turning back. Nowadays, you're more likely to catch me pouring a glass of wine down the sink than sipping it. Growing up surrounded by alcohol and adopting a heavy teenage consumption habit, I realized there was much to unravel about my relationship with it. The turning point came during a yoga session when that inner voice, once a mere whisper, became an insistent call to explore my connection with alcohol. I couldn't ignore it any longer. Now, after 18 months, I'm immensely thankful that I honored myself, set boundaries, and prioritized my health by taking a mindful approach to my consumption.
I share this because your journey of sober curiosity is unique, and it's okay if it feels like a solitary path. However, just like with any challenging endeavor, the rewards are absolutely worth it.
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As always, thanks for being here. It’s better together.
And this week’s TGIFs…
TOOL - NPR recently did a special on Dry January and you may get something out of listening if this week’s topic spoke to you.
GRATITUDE - Social media is not healthy for our youth. I’m grateful organizations and legislatures are finally taking it seriously. I’m talking at Northville Parent Camp this weekend (tomorrow, it’s free!) about the subject and hope to share more important and useful information.
INNOVATION - In sessions last week, I truth-bomb shared with some clients, “You cannot repair if you are impaired” as we discussed the impact of alcohol on the relationship. Friends, if you’re fighting when intoxicated or because you’re intoxicated, sober curiosity is not a suggestion but a must if you want to repair your relationship with others and most importantly, yourself.
FEELS - In yoga this week the download that came to me was, “Yes, consistency is boring, but with consistency to discipline the time you get back is full of joy and freedom”. See, I made consistency our word this year for a reason - because it’s my greatest growing edge. So while I can feel that familiar restless boredom creep in, I am dedicated to managing my impulses and just keep going.